It’s okay to be average. It’s okay to love something and not be the best at it. It doesn’t mean you or your gift are worthless because you aren’t the “best.” It’s okay if your talent or passion isn’t a business. And it’s okay if your business isn’t the “best” either!
I caught myself comparing my business to a friend’s last Friday. I said to Ari, “Her business is probably doing better than mine…”
Re-writing a book has been [insert all the antonyms of “easy”]. I’ve been sitting here at my computer, battling with words and insecurities. “Why is this so hard for me? I wish I could write books like her… ”
How could I write about friendship when I’m not perfect at it? “I’m not an expert—why try?”
In my own kitchen, “Sorry dinner is too spicy, and that we have the same things every week. I’m not the best at doing family dinners.”
Ari stopped me:
He prayed for God to give me lots of words.
He ate every bite of dinner.
And to my comment comparing my business to someone else’s, he said this: “Lara, money envy is usually pride.”
It hits hard, and it shatters the lies.
We miss so much feeling like we have to be an expert or better than everyone else, don’t we?
I shared in my weekly Facebook Live yesterday about the freedom found in being “average” and the lies we believe that keep us from that freedom.
We falsely believe we have to:
do it all
have it all
be an expert
be better than someone else
be the best
have it all together
And if we aren’t, or don’t, we hesitate.
We don’t move forward.
We don’t send it, say it, do it, or surrender.
We just sit in the lies.
An email landed in my inbox this morning, and It made me see I’ve been believing another one lately. I didn’t know I needed the words I’m about to share with you till they left me in a puddle of tears here at my desk. With her permission, I’m sharing an excerpt. I hope these words encourage you too.
I know you have believed lies friend.
We all have.
You know what though?
You also have listened to truth.
Just look back.
Look at your marriage. You listened and pressed into the truth.
Look at your walk with Jesus. You listened to truth and have grown so much.
Look at Ari. He knows Jesus sweet friend.
You might have listened and operated under some lies, yet you have listened to truth as well.
You have listened to the voice of your Savior, and you have obeyed.
Goodness that is some ripe, rich, healthy fruit.
Friend, what if all of this is about what you have done right??!!
What if your faith and your little by little has made you braver than you think?
What if your obedience has shown God that He can trust you with more?
Satan wants you to feel naked and shamed in your exposure of humanness. Yet the Bible says something totally different.
Genesis 2:25 says, “The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame.”
God fully intended for us to be exposed without shame.
Only Satan tells us to hide.
I’ve been believing the lie that God isn’t faithful. I don’t say it, but I sure am acting like it lately. How easily I forget what He has done! I certainly don’t think I’ve listened as much as I should, or that I’ve done much right, but my friend encouraged me to see that His ways are always better than mine, and His ways lead to new life.
All of it, changed by truth.
I can take zero credit for the change in my life, but we are given a choice: believe the lies, or listen to the truth and try our best—through all our imperfections and times we plain old mess up. (Allllll the time for me!)
Lord, may I keep choosing truth over lies, and surrender over striving to be the best. And when I don’t, may I remember that your grace gives me freedom. Freedom from striving, performing, or having to be the best. It’s okay to be average. Like Moses, you don’t need me to be perfect to use me. You don’t call me to be the best, you just want my surrendered heart and hands.
And I’m so glad You aren’t done with me yet.