Happy New Year’s Eve, friends! Ari, Gracie and I are flying from Miami (after a wonderful visit with his family — his dad’s first time meeting Grace!) to Pensacola shortly to see my parents, brother and Grandma Bunny (who turned 97 yesterday — wow!). I’m so grateful and excited to ring in a new year with them! I hope your plans tonight include celebrating the great things in 2013 and that the past is behind us, giving way to a fresh new start. Thank you, Lord! Anyone else ready for a fresh start?
If you just stumbled on my blog today, welcome. This may say “Part 3” above, but you are not too late to join us. It’s never too late to begin and there are lots of folks just getting started today, too : ) Here are the links to the previous posts below:
1. God is fully in control and He loves us all deeply. His purposes prevailed this last year. My selfish pursuits did not.
2. God has a very good plan, even when I can’t see the final outcome. I need to trust His plans ALWAYS and not try to control everything. He has this.
3. The Bible is truly the only source of wisdom for all aspects of life. Nothing else compares. I was changed more in reading the Bible and being still (so hard sometimes) and praying this year than anything else.
What I learned from what didn’t work:
1. All of the above : ) And that our days on they earth are very short. They feel shorter and shorter lately. I learned — and am learning — that I have to keep my heart focused on Him or I get way off track.
2. I am weak. I am so weak sometimes. I need Him to fill up all those places I can’t make whole on my own. When I stay focused on His glory and not mine, He leads me so clearly.
3. Lastly, I learned that I can’t do it all and that’s OK. Sometimes it’s better to pass the torch so more leaders can be born and grow. Dear self: pass the torch more!
What fires me up:
(just a few of the many things)
Writing the things above and just being real about where I need to grow — being humbled — fires me up. I feel closest to God when I am humbled.
Our mission at Southern Weddings — and in all we do — fires me up beyond words.
Music fires me up. I am typing this listening to Oceans on repeat again.
A crazy good workout where I feel my lungs burning and my muscles hot.
Clean air. Clean water. These are gifts I’m trying to learn to not take for granted.
A shared moment or conversation with Ari where I remember and feel our shared heart. We’ve had a lot of those lately. That shared heart was born of a man who died on a cross so we could be free. So we could forgive each other. So we could be forgiven. So we could be completely washed in grace and made new and whole again. That heart is the greatest gift we’ve been given. It saved our marriage and changed who we are as people.
Watching Grace sing any song ever, Grace looking at me right in the eyes to tell me something, Grace laughing, Grace saying new sentences or asking me silly questions… she fires me up.
Doing pirouettes in my living room. That was for you, Katie : ) The best part is that, lately, Grace asks to do them too. She can’t quite get the mechanics, but I hold her and twirl her around. Melt my soul.
Grace praying spontaneously. Truly amazing. This is one of my favorite images from the entire year and from, well, ever.
My friends who love the Lord and do things about it. There are too many of you to name. The fact that I know so many truly amazing women fires me up in itself. Thank you all for loving Him and being a light in my life.
Getting things done, stepping into fear, saying no — that all fires me up!
The ocean (so I took Grace yesterday!), seeing people change, baptisms (I cry every single time), singing in church with my family, solitude, writing, creating, the ladies I work with, Meredith, my family, hugs, the smell of pine, snow, farm animals (namely chickens!), flowers, white lilies, gardening, cooking, singing to God, slow dancing with Ari in the kitchen… I could go on but I will stop there for now : )
Speaking of what fires me up, I love surprises! So, I made you a little something fun for your New Year’s Eve : ) The 2014 Letter to Your Amazing Self! And haha – anyone see the typo in this letter? That’s what I get for not having Emily Thomas around all week to proofread for me!
Print this out, share it, pin it — download it full size HERE — and maybe even give a copy or email one to your BFF’s to fill out, too! Have fun. I’ll share mine tomorrow too : )
OK! Onto the next steps!
STEP 7: What is your 2013 VISION? To quote my friend Mitch, “You need to have a vision for where you are as a person. Everyone ends up somewhere, but few end up somewhere on purpose. You have to have a focus. Focus helps you know what NOT to focus on. If you have a vision, when times are tough (and they will be), it gives you peace and hope and passion to move forward.”
Where there is no vision, the people perish. (Proverbs 29:18)
Traditional goals get forgotten and they can be overwhelming if they aren’t connected to what matters. They can make life busier. I don’t want a new to-do list for 2014, I want a PATH. Goals with a solid, well thought-out vision behind them HAPPEN. They simplify life. And, as I found out this year, the clearer my vision gets, the more good I see in life and the more good happens for other people, too.
Write out your 2014 Vision. You can do this in whatever way you feel most connected to. A few questions you can choose from to get you writing:
What kind of life do you want to live this year?
Where do you want to be when you’re 80?
WHY do you do what you do?
What is your mission?
What is your CORE?
If you could envision your best year yet, what does that look like?
2014 is the year I (fill in your blank): _______
I will share mine tomorrow! Post your 2014 Vision here in the comments so we can inspire and cheer each other on!
STEP 8: Here’s where things get fun. You now know what did work over the last twelve months, what didn’t work and what fires you up. You learned some very valuable lessons in all of this. You are starting to see the bigger picture and have a VISION for your year ahead. So, what is NOT in that vision? Make a list of all of the things that are holding you back (or could potentially hold you back) from making this vision come to life this year. Write your list of what you are saying NO to in 2014.
STEP 9: With everything you have written down thus far in mind (I suggest reading over all of your progress again), what are you going to need to say YES to more often in order to make your vision come to life? Write your list of what you are saying YES to in 2014. Dream big, here, and write down the things you are afraid to dive into, too. There is great potential hiding in your fear. I encourage you to post your YES List publicly here and/or share it with friends to help inspire others and to keep yourself accountable. I think you will all likely NOT be writing Facebook or more social media on this list. Just a guess.
–> PowerSheets owners, the step numbers in the rest of this series won’t match what you have in your sheets, as you have more steps! : ) Exclusive new printables just for PowerSheets friends will come in the PowerSheets webinar on January 15th, too!
BONUS STEP! Pick a core word for 2014. What one word really resonates with you for the coming year? What word pulls together all that you want to make happen? Think hard about this. I’ll share mine tomorrow too. Research words that resonate with you. Pray on it. Then, write your word here in the comments (and give a virtual high five to those who might have the same word as you — we are bound to have some shared words!). Then, write that word in prominent places so you are reminded of your focus this year. Put it on a post it in your car. Put it on a post it literally inside of your fridge (I have a post it in my fridge!). Make it your computer desktop. Write it anywhere and everywhere to remind you of where you are going!
Speaking of going, we’re off to Pensacola! Happy New Year’s Eve, dear friends! While this is the last day of a calendar year, it has the potential to also be the START of your best year yet. Start well. Let’s do this!
PRIZES FOR THIS POST: Read Part 1 for all the ways you can win! Randomly chosen commenters on this post will get either a $20 gift card to my shop, a Simplified Planner…
Welcome back, friends! In Part 1, I asked you to dig deep and get real about how you are, define what worked in 2013, what didn’t work and make your 2014 Pinterest Board. By the way I apparently have no idea how to use Pinterest! My #2014GoalSetting hashtag for boards doesn’t work, so re-title your boards “Making Things Happen in 2014” so we can find each other! : ) If you are just joining us, it’s never too late to start. Even if you read this in February or October. Now is the very best time to begin.
Here’s the ironic thing about the titles of these posts: I don’t believe in traditional “goal setting.” It doesn’t work for me. I look back at old “goal lists” and most of those things didn’t happen. I honestly forgot about those goals because I microwaved a goal list that sounded good, but wasn’t really connected to what matters. That’s why we aren’t setting goals until the very last step of this series. Powerful goals take some slow cooking and carefully chosen ingredients and a lot of fire!
I also look back at things I worried about and 99% of those things never happened, either! Coincidence? No. It’s a giant reminder that I am not in control. God’s plans are always better and much bigger than mine, including — and many times, especially — the challenges. We can make all the plans we want, but we never know what will happen tomorrow. Like I said in my last post, you never know how much time you have. Don’t wait. You can choose to see that fact as terrifying or downright exciting. I choose the latter. Let’s continue…
First, here are my answers from Part 1. Remember to leave yours here in the comments, too, so we can cheer each other on. I’m giving away a $20 gift code to my shop and lots of other goodies on every post if you need more motivation to dive in. All winners will be announced January 31! Trust me, you don’t want to miss these surprise prizes : ) I will keep you in suspense for a little while longer…
And before you read my list, make yours. Don’t fall into the trap of comparing lists with others. Let’s celebrate each other’s good things instead. If I read my list here as the me of five years ago, I think I might feel a little lost and fall into comparison. When I talk about good things that happened in business in 2013, know I walked in the shoes of someone who didn’t have a business at one point — and the shoes of someone who failed at a whole lot of things (and still fails constantly!) — not that many years ago. You can read my whole journey by clicking, “nice to meet you” above : ) OK, a few of the great things that happened in 2013:
– I read a lot of the Bible. My goal has been to finish the entire thing, from start to finish, by December 31. I’m currently in John. The year isn’t over yet, though! (I will report back January 1.) I have a ways to go, but this has definitely been the biggest blessing and source of goodness in my life this year. – I started the Contentment Challenge in October and am still going. Aside from a couple boxes of Christmas lights, a new vegetable planter, eye liner (I’ve had the same one for likely a few too many years past its expiration), a can opener (because ours broke), and new non-nursing bras after mine literally disintegrated because I’ve had them for so long, I haven’t purchased anything outside of the Contentment Challenge for myself in four months. However, I have definitely purchased too much for Grace. Mostly clothing and books. And stickers. – The Southern Weddings ladies WORKED. They worked hard for what matters – to help couples plan meaningful beginnings to married life, to make our company sow good seeds in the hearts on many daily, and they all fought for love and what matters most in their own lives too. They truly walk the walk. I am so grateful to learn and grow with them daily! – Ari interviewed for his job at UNC in November 2012. We waited to hear a yes or no for months and things started to look pretty discouraging. This was perhaps the thing I prayed about the most this year, besides my dad’s health and for God to guide my steps every day. I begged God to let us stay in Chapel Hill. The alternative was to move somewhere really far away from our families, away from my staff, away from our church, and possibly out of the South completely. I eventually resigned to the fact that maybe that was His plan and maybe we would have to do that. This entire experience taught me to trust Him. Not to trust I will always get my way, but to trust that His plans are good no matter what. Miraculously, just when we thought for sure they had given the job to someone else, Ari was told he had it! THANK YOU LORD for this answered prayer. Ari accepted a position at UNC as Associate Professor of Interventional Radiology in April! : ) – I launched this new site and brand on February 13th, and I still love it more than all the Luna Bars and chickens in the world! – We also launched two shops, the Lara Casey Shop and Southern Weddings Shop, and I debuted my first line of PowerSheets. The PowerSheets have gone through three redesigns and I finally feel like we have them right. I am so excited to use my own 2014 set soon. Using the PowerSheets this last year has been a significant source of focus for me. – I met a lot of lovely silver-haired friends this year on our morning walks through the retirement community across the street. This gave Grace and me so much joy. We looked forward to seeing “Mr. Bill” and “Mrs. Rhetta” every morning. The weather has been cold, so we have sadly had to stop our morning path, but Gracie made ornaments for them and Mr. Bill even came over to our house to say hello last week and bring us a thank you note! It was so great. As Gracie says, “Mr. Bill is sooooooo sweet.” – Emily and I led a lot of webinars with the goal of making MBH more accessible to a wider audience, specifically people who are just starting businesses and not in the place to do full branding. This has been on my heart: give all of the knowledge God gives you away to as many people as possible. – Emily and I also worked with 22 wonderful branding clients. After lots of prayer, we have decided to hold off on taking 2014 projects during this season of growth for our businesses and toddlers! – I did 103 consulting sessions. These were some of my favorite conversations of my life. I love being one-on-one with people and helping them see life and business in new ways and I have made some lovely new friendships from these conversations. – One of my 2013 goals was to stop breastfeeding. This was a really hard decision and a total lifestyle change for me that was coupled with a lot of fear. But, after 16 months, I stopped and Grace is still a happy healthy camper… and I have THREE HOURS back in my life every day. – Ari and I celebrated our 7 year anniversary in style – at the Whole Foods buffet with Grace : ) – I wrote a 46-page book proposal and it was accepted. Totally crazy. You can read the whole story here. I signed my book contract with Thomas Nelson in October. I’m currently deep in the thick of writing, with my final manuscript due in about 30 days. Pray for me!!! And forgive me if I don’t answer your emails for the next month! – I read two books that completely changed my life: Seven and Interrupted. As a result, well… a lot of things happened as a result. I stopped shopping in October with the Contentment Challenge. We stopped using paper towels. I stopped buying bottled water. I bought 50lbs of oatmeal in bulk. I started to understand how taking care of our world is directly connected to loving God. I started to understand God’s heart more. I started to see just how much I need Him. We started praying about adoption. Needless to say, God used these books to change me. I have SO far to go still, but I am grateful for the heart change so far. – In June, after finally knowing we were staying in Chapel Hill, we bought our house — praise the Lord! Well, the bank technically bought it, but we are paying the mortgage : ) – As a result, we planted a vegetable garden! This was one of my greatest joys this year. – We hosted the Making Things Happen Conferences in March and October. They were both so heart-changing for me personally and I met many new friends. The 2014 MTH is a handful of seats away from sold out already. – We said farewell to Susan and welcomed Meredith into our family. Meredith has been a dream come true and moved all the way from Norman, Oklahoma to be with us! Read her inspiring blog. – We interviewed and hired Lisa, who has been a huge blessing in all of our lives. – Nicole celebrated 3+ years with us and renewed her contract (with some bribing – see here), Emily celebrated 4 years, Marissa celebrated 3+ years and Kristin celebrated her first wonderful year with us. – Ari and I took a week of “stay-cation.” Our stay-cation included a trip to the Piggly Wiggly — definitely a highlight ; ) – I took 2 weeks completely off of social media. I learned so much. I didn’t miss it. – Ari and I started teaching Sunday School. This was a huge highlight this year and something I have always wanted to do! – We also shared the story of our marriage – the good and the challenging – live on camera. – We celebrated the one year anniversary of my dad’s baptism. God is amazing! – We launched the Southern Weddings and Lara Casey monthly newsletters. These helped me connect with many new friends. – We celebrated five years of Southern Weddings with lots of favorites from the last wonderful years: favorite editorials, real weddings, SW ladies, behind-the-scenes goodness, amazing photographs and our growth. God is good! – My Grandma Bunny was diagnosed with mouth cancer and, at the age of 96, started radiation treatments. She is not cured, but has responded well to them. Her cancer has shrunk significantly, which is more than we could have asked for! Amen, hallelujah, thank you Lord! – I cooked a lot this year and really enjoyed it. Having a vegetable garden made this even more fun this year. Over Christmas, I made my mom’s famed Tunisian Couscous and a Christmas Quiche that were wonderful! – I spoke at 8 conferences including Engage!13, Americasmart, Pursuit 31, the Influence Conference, Atlanta VOWS, Making Things Happen, and the MAGS Gala. I loved every single one of them. I would do this year all over again with speaking. It was so gratifying. – We finally, after years of trying to get it, got SouthernWeddings.com! Oh my stars, this feels so good. Read the whole story here. – We took a family vacation to Beaches. More on that trip soon. It was so good and so needed. Grace met Elmo. Highlight of her little life ; ) – We completed our 6th print edition (“V6″) of Southern Weddings! – I got to spend lots of face-to-face time with my friends, Emily Ley and Gina Zeidler as we travelled to speak at the Pursuit 31 Conference together and did the Making Things Happen Conference here together. I am so blessed by them. – Our friendships grew and Gina is pregnant! That is such a highlight of the year!!! – Completely out of the blue, I got an email from Southern Living and, after many meetings and much prayer, we’ve now joined in a really wonderful partnership with them. Read the whole story here. – We launched a brand new Southern Weddings site and brand in November. – I became a minivan mom! YES! – We created a personal budget and I feel great about our Life List progress! Download a free Life List printable here. – Perhaps the thing I am most grateful for this year, though, is my dad’s health and happiness being restored twice over. Dad, you just told me on the phone that you have been reading my blog, so this is for you: I love you so much and am so grateful for what God has done in your life this year! It is truly a testament of His goodness and care for us and how He can make the “impossible” possible : ) – I will keep adding to this list as I think of things, and I encourage you to do the same with your list! In fact, I encourage you to print your list out and have it in front of you as an encouragement for the start of a new year. Frame this goodness!
Now, onto my list of things that were challenging or didn’t work well this year:
– As much as I have strong boundaries with social media (read more about how I set boundaries at makeyourdreamshappen.com), social media still continues to invade my heart at times in negative ways. It distracts me from life right in front of me too often. – I travelled a lot for speaking in the fall. I purposely put them all back-to-back, but this was still challenging. By the time I got to Pursuit 31 in October, I was spent. I was physically and emotionally exhausted. – Editing the magazine and doing layout for several late nights and long days didn’t work. I’ve already talked to the SW ladies about finding someone to do layout in my place this fall so I can focus on the big picture. – Having a booming business in my house didn’t work at times. We verged on far too big for this space. My garage will likely never have a car in it. I’m not sure what to do about this yet, if anything. – We were constantly having website server issues, which are thankfully now fixed with our new private server. This was costly and frustrating. – There were lots of days I didn’t have time to call my mom, answer texts from friends or stop to smell the roses. There were certainly many more days than last year that I DID do those things, but I still need more of that. – I fell off the exercise wagon many times. I still “exercised” almost daily this year, but many times it was a slow poke workout or a brief walk, especially when it got really hot and when it got really cold outside. I feel the effects of this. I have so much more energy when I am healthy and strong. I want more of that. I want the fire to do it. – Although I have been doing the Contentment Challenge, we still have far too much stuff. I feel like I am CONSTANTLY getting rid of things. All I need is less. More on that later. – Grace has been sleeping in our bed the last couple months, which is not great for Ari and me. – On that note, parenting a toddler is hard. Really hard. We are blessed that she is healthy and I think of that blessing multiple times a day, but her constant resistance and tantrums can wear on a mama. – On that note again, I really don’t like angry me. My controlling nature in parenting has gotten the best of me several times lately as Grace’s “no’s” have increased. I don’t like it. I am praying for wisdom and God’s peace. – I had far too much to do in this last quarter of the year in general. I was supposed to be writing my book the whole time, but there were endless tasks that needed tending to. My goal for the coming year is to completely flip that on it’s head. – Having a full plate and a toddler has left little time for friends outside of church activities and occasional dinners. I need a close friend locally who I can really connect with and grow spiritually with. – Ari works a lot. He loves his job and we are so grateful he has it, but sometimes his call schedule makes me sad. I miss him a lot and so does Grace. We are grateful he helps so many people daily, though. – I worried too much and I wasn’t always the best mom, wife, boss, friend or daughter. I tried, but my failures always had a good ending — they always pointed me right back to Jesus. God’s grace makes all things new. – There were more but I have those on my own private list. It’s always good to remember that, while many people (including me) blog very personal things, there are still many things that aren’t shared for good reasons. I always try to remember that when reading other’s blogs. You never know what kind of battles people are facing. Overall though, I have nothing but praise for this year. God answered many prayers.
STEP FOUR: OK, next up! What are the three biggest lessons you learned from what DID work? Write them out here in the comments or somewhere. I will share my list tomorrow.
STEP FIVE: What are the three biggest things you learned from what DIDN’T work? Again, write them out. I’ll share tomorrow here, too.
STEP SIX: What fires you up? What are the things that light your soul on fire? Pretty simple, yet very profound: name them (you can download a printable list here if you want!) and then DO them. Do more of what fires you up. If dance parties, hugging your kids, laughing with your husband and doing good things for others fires you up, DO those things today (and always, but start with just today).
Physically do some of the things you want to see more of in your life and take action on them. Not all of them, just some of them. Do what you can. We all have at least five minutes every day, even if we don’t think we do, to make what matters happen. How much time have you already spent on social media today? How much time will you spend on it the rest of the day? Trade that time for doing something that fires you up. I don’t think many of us can say that lurking on Facebook fires us up, can we?
See what happens when you physically start living the life you know you were called to. Little by little, get connected to what matters most to you. Love on people. Write out your list and then DO something on that list. If you love the ocean, but don’t live near it, click here. Does the sound of rain make you feel alive? Here you go! If you love dance parties, pump up the jam! If you love hugs, give one. If you are fired up by great art, start here with my friend Otto who is moving to Nepal and leaving wedding photography. If you are fired up by words, read these amazing quotes that were penned by my friend Kelly, who lettered something every single day of 2013! Go, Kelly, go! If you are fired up by creating, make something right now. Just for the love of making it. If you are fired up by the outdoors, close your computer or put down this iPhone and step outside. Just do it. Right now.
See how making the things on your list happen starts to shape your life — and most importantly — the lives of everyone around you. God gave us talents and gifts that are meant to be used to shine His glory brightly to the world — and He gave us sunsets and the roaring ocean likely to leave us in awe of His goodness. Note to self and everyone: It’s hard to do and see those things hiding behind a computer screen : )
The Bible doesn’t tell us to “follow our passions” so we can be happy, but it definitely tell us to use our unique gifts to serve others. And there is a deeper happiness found in that. A peace that passes all understanding. You were created for great things, my friend. You were created to shine brightly for Him. That is definitely something to have a dance party for! Share your list here. I will share mine soon too. Making life happen in 2014, here we come!
More tomorrow. Get to writing and DOing, friends!
PRIZES FOR THIS POST: Read Part 1 for all the ways you can win! Randomly chosen commenters on this post will get either a $20 gift card to my shop or a Simplified Life Binder set!
Winners will ba announced January 31 so you have lots of time to spread the word about this series and make these posts happen!
Today I turn 34 and something has struck my heart like lighting: Don’t wait. At church this past weekend, one of our preachers told us about a memorial service he had just gone to. A 35 year-old killed was killed in a car accident last Tuesday morning. That wasn’t on the young man’s to-do list for the day or in his plans. He thought he had his whole life ahead of him. The heart of the sermon that followed: You might not have as much time as you think you have. Don’t keep what God has given you to yourself. This thought has permeated every inch of my heart, so here I am. I am fired up to not keep what God has given me to myself in this series, in the book I am furiously writing (my final manuscript is due in 30 days — pray for me!) or in any aspect of my life.
So, the biggest rule to this entire goal setting series is don’t wait. If God puts something good on your heart to do, DO it. Now. Don’t wait till you have a perfect list of 2014 goals in front of you. Do the good you know you ought to do. Do it with gusto. Do it knowing that you might not have as much time as you think!
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Maybe this isn’t how you expected I would start this 2014 Goal Setting series, but I’m done waiting. If we face the reality that our lives are not in our control — that we don’t get to decide how long we get to walk this earth — we actually learn to live our lives to the full. Facing the reality of life — and eternal life — makes me feel bold and clear and direct. It makes me want to use every gift God has given me and stop fearing what other people think (<—- how many of you are in that boat right now with me?) or what comforts I might lose if I give more and live with much less. It makes me want to hug tighter and teach Grace love more profoundly quit a lot of things and stop wasting so much time. Anyone feeling this way too? Welcome. I’m celebrating 34 years today — and the fact that I still have the ability to reach you today through this computer — by kicking off what will, Lord willing, be a powerful start to 2014. Let’s do this.
Here’s the deal. Making things happen requires action. As we go through this series, either use the comment area here to leave your answers or write them somewhere. But, don’t just think them. Thinking them doesn’t count. Write them out and, if you want accountability, leave them boldly here in the comments. I want to cheer you on! Friends, help me out here and cheer each other on, too. You never know who you might inspire or whose life you might completely change with your words.
Those of you with 2014 PowerSheets will be all set, although you may need more space to write a few of these extra steps — and there will be exclusive steps just for PowerSheets owners, too! If you haven’t ordered your set yet, you can still order in time for my live 2014 Goal Setting Webinar on January 15! Pre-orders start shipping January 9. But, let me make one thing very clear: you do not need PowerSheets to make things happen. They are just a great tool. They won’t do the work for you. If you just have a notebook to do this series, use that! If you have scrap paper, that’s great too : ) It’s not about the perfect stuff, it’s about how you USE what you have.
We’re going to take this day by day, in small powerful chunks, because there are no shortcuts to any place worth going. – Beverly Sills For the entire series, I’ll be sharing my personal progress and goals as well. And I have no idea what those goals will be yet. No idea! I know the heart of what they will be, but this is a series — a process — for a reason. You can microwave some goals and have a pretty little 2014 list by Monday, or you can dig deeper and set goals that matter to you over the next week or so with me. You can pray hard about them and really weigh whether or not they are the best use of your time. You can set goals that are twenty levels below the surface, where the fiery good stuff lives. Or you can just make resolutions that get forgotten and tossed aside come February 1. So, steps 1-3 will happen today and we’ll continue on Monday with the rest. And, if you need an extra kick in the pants to make this happen, keep reading. I have a little something for you at the end.
I’ve revamped and updated my Goal Setting series from last year based on what I learned in my own process and what I’ve seen work for thousands of others who joined me. I am very excited about doing this with you and so curious to see where it leads me personally, too. Are you in this for a quick fix or for making LIFE happen? Awesome! Continue…
Before we start, a question: how are you? No, really. How ARE you today, friend? Free-write (or “download” as I like to call it) for just a couple minutes. Be honest with yourself. You can burn your paper after if you want to, but be honest. How are you?? If you need a place to start, write out three things that are challenging you in life today or lately and also write three things you are grateful for today. It’s so important to start with where you are and get it out. Your worries today can directly affect what you write next, so don’t shove them under the table. Acknowledge them. Write them. Call your BFF and talk them out. Whatever works best for you, but whatever you do, do it now. Don’t wait. When you are done with that, take a deep breath and let’s get started with Step One of 2014 Goal Setting.
STEP ONE: Let’s take a look back at what worked in 2013. What are you grateful for in 2013? What good things happened? I know I’m starting with the hardest step. Most people don’t like taking the time to do this because it doesn’t seem like it will get you anywhere fast. Trust me here. It will. Why is this the most vital first step? It’s really easy to look back at an entire year and just see the yucky parts. Like when something happens to you at the end of a day and you automatically call it a “bad day,” regardless of what happened the other 23 hours. Anyone do that? [Raising my hand high!] Let’s focus on what went well first. Make your list right now. These positive things are there to guide you and you should CELEBRATE THEM! Celebrate what you want to see more of. Gratitude changes everything and will show you just how far you’ve come… and it just might give you the energy and hope you need to press on full-force! Make your list of things you made happen and things you are grateful for. You can list as many as you like!
One huge thing I am grateful for is that I started this Goal Setting series a year ago and tracked my progress throughout 2013 with my PowerSheets and here on the blog for accountability. You can read my goal updates (I posted my progress every three months… or when I could!) here: April, August, October. I am so exceedingly grateful that I wrote things down throughout the year. This was new for me and completely changed things. It gave me so much more to celebrate because I didn’t forget things or let negative things overshadow them. This helped me to have the energy and confidence to keep going when things got hard. It helped me see so much more of God’s goodness that was there all along. I will give my final 2013 Goal update and my list of great things that happened in 2013 next week. Gotta use every day I have left to, Lord willing, take more action on those goals!
A few tips on how to make your list that have helped me:
1. Take a look back at your 2013 calendar, blog posts (if you blog) or photos you posted on social media. Those might give you a clue into some of the highlights you’ve forgotten.
2. Talk to your significant other or BFF about your year and ask them to reflect some of the highlights back to you. They may remember some that you have forgotten! This is also a really great inspiring way to celebrate the good things of 2013 this weekend. Make it your dinner conversation tonight : ) And remember, this isn’t all about you – ask others to tell you their highlights, too! Goodness is contagious!
3. Thank people. As you reflect on the good things this past year, say thank you to those who were a part of that. I’m starting today, too, with some texts, emails, phone calls and physical letters and a lot of praise to God. Gracie is doing her happy dance, too : )
STEP TWO: What didn’t work? Honesty time! And before you do this step, remember not to beat yourself up here. You are brilliant and I know you want to make this your best year yet. The past is behind you. The old has gone, the new has come! Just list some facts here. In business and life, what didn’t work well to help you live your best life this year and what needs improvement?
STEP THREE: As a creative, visual person, imagery really lights my heart on fire more than anything. Great photographs and colors can make my heart sing and help me clarify my vision. If you are like me, you will really love Step 3. Make a Pinterest board of images that will inspire a brilliant year. Title your board “Making Things Happen in 2014” so we can search for each other’s boards! Now, one word of caution. I rarely use Pinterest because it can be the black hole of distraction and discontentment. Pin wisely, friends. Pick stuff that lights your hearts on fire and move on! Here’s my board from last year and here is the one I’m starting today for 2014. I am alone with Gracie today, so there will not be much pining happening! Just reading books, running around and singing silly songs : )
OK, that’s it for today and that’s plenty to work on! Take your time with this and remember: PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION. This is not about writing the perfect list with a perfect pen or making the most beautiful Pinterest board… it’s just about honesty. To make things happen, you have to start with where you are. This is a process that will have a big payoff, but you have to commit to working through it. Be still and let your year’s vision slowly cook, like a pan of homemade hot baked cinnamon rolls fresh out of the oven. They wouldn’t be so flaky and yummy cooked in the microwave, would they? Just a big pile of mushy dough. I’m not going to hand you your 2014 goals. We’re going to do this right and get there together. Sound good? Awesome! Get to it!
If you need an extra kick in the pants to make this happen, I’m going to be giving away a $20 gift code to my shop (there are some crazy amazing new Making Things Happen and inspiring goodies coming to the shop soon!) and goodies from other shops I love on EVERY POST in this series to one lucky commenter per post. You can win multiple times and you can increase your chances of winning by:
– Pinning this post or any in the series – Instagramming – or “gramming” ? I suddenly feel old. Ha! – Facebooking (is that a word??) – Tweeting – Blogging or in any way sharing this post/series – For all entires, link back here to www.LaraCasey.com/blog and use the #2014GoalSetting hashtag. You are welcome to use graphics from my posts! – Lastly, leave a comment saying you did any of the above. You can enter as many times as you like on all posts! I’m going to choose some extra winners along the way, too, for some special surprises : )
Why am I doing this? I know God put me here on this earth for many reasons, and He has made it clear that one of those reasons it to motivate people to take action on what matters most. I want you — yes YOU — to make what matters happen in your life. So, help me spread the word and let’s get all our friends in on this for accountability! Making things happen is always better when shared : ) “See” y’all Monday! YAHOO!!!
Years ago, there was a very wealthy man who, with his devoted young son, shared a passion for art collecting. Together they traveled around the world, adding only the finest art treasures to their collection. Priceless works by Picasso, Van Gogh, Monet and many others adorned the walls of the family estate. The widowed, elder man looked on with satisfaction as his only child became an experienced art collector. The son’s trained eye and sharp business mind caused his father to beam with pride as they dealt with art collectors around the world.
As winter approached, war engulfed the nation, and the young man left to serve his country. After only a few short weeks, his father received a telegram. His beloved son was missing in action. The art collector anxiously awaited more news, fearing he would never see his son again. Within days, his fears were confirmed. The young man had died while rushing a fellow soldier to a medic.
Distraught and lonely, the old man faced the upcoming Christmas holidays with anguish and sadness. The joy of the season, a season that he and his son had so looked forward to, would visit his house no longer. On Christmas morning, a knock on the door awakened the depressed old man. As he walked to the door, the masterpieces of art on the walls only reminded him that his son was not coming home.
As he opened the door, he was greeted by a soldier with a large package in his hand. He introduced himself to the man by saying, “I was a friend of your son. I was the one he was rescuing when he died. May I come in for a few moments? I have something to show you.” As the two began to talk, the soldier told of how the man’s son had told everyone of his, not to mention his father’s, love of fine art. “I’m an artist,” said the soldier, “and I want to give you this.” As the old man unwrapped the package, the paper gave way to reveal a portrait of the son.
Though the world would never consider it the work of a genius, the painting featured the young man’s face in striking detail. Overcome with emotion, the man thanked the soldier, promising to hang the picture over the fireplace. A few hours later, after the soldier had departed, the old man set about his task.
True to his word, the painting went well above the fireplace, pushing aside thousands of dollars of paintings. And then the man sat in his chair and spent Christmas gazing at the gift he had been given. During the days and weeks that followed, the man realized that even though his son was no longer with him, the boy’s life would live on because of those he had touched. He would soon learn that his son had rescued dozens of wounded soldiers before a bullet stilled his caring heart.
As the stories of his son’s gallantry continued to reach him, fatherly pride and satisfaction began to ease the grief. The painting of his son soon became his most prized possession, far eclipsing any interest in the pieces for which museums around the world clamored. He told his neighbors it was the greatest gift he had ever received.
The following spring, the old man became ill and passed away. The art world was in anticipation!
Unmindful of the story of the man’s only son, but in his honor, those paintings would be sold at an auction. According to the will of the old man, all of the art works would be auctioned on Christmas day, the day he had received his greatest gift. The day soon arrived and art collectors from around the world gathered to bid on some of the world’s most spectacular paintings. Dreams would be fulfilled this day; greatness would be achieved as many claim “I have the greatest collection.” The auction began with a painting that was not on any museum’s list. It was the painting of the man’s son. The auctioneer asked for an opening bid. The room was silent.
“Who will open the bidding with $100?” he asked. Minutes passed. No one spoke. From the back of the room came, “Who cares about that painting? It’s just a picture of his son. Let’s forget it and go on to the good stuff.”
More voices echoed in agreement. “No, we have to sell this one first,” replied the auctioneer. “Now, who will take the son?” Finally, a friend of the old man spoke, “Will you take ten dollars for the painting? That’s all I have. I knew the boy, so I’d like to have it.”
“I have ten dollars. Will anyone go higher?” called the auctioneer. After more silence, the auctioneer said, “Going once, going twice. Gone.” The gavel fell, cheers filled the room and someone exclaimed, “Now we can get on with it and we can bid on these treasures!”
The auctioneer looked at the audience and announced the auction was over. Stunned disbelief quieted the room. Someone spoke up and asked, “What do you mean it’s over? We didn’t come here for a picture of some old guy’s son. What about all of these paintings? There are millions of dollars of art here! I demand that you explain what’s going on here!” The auctioneer replied, “It’s very simple. According to the will of the father, whoever takes the son…gets it all.”
Puts things into perspective doesn’t it? Just as those art collectors discovered on that Christmas Day, the message is still the same: the love of a Father, a Father whose greatest joy came from His Son, who went away and gave His life rescuing others. And because of that Father’s love, whoever takes the Son, gets it all.
The January 2014 issue of Southern Living just arrived in the mail…
…with 24 pages of our content, starting with an editor’s letter from Lindsay Bierman and yours truly.
Having this on my coffee table right now is so surreal, mostly because it all happened so fast (read my previous post for details). Lindsay’s words about our company and our hearts are so glowing that I can’t quite wrap my brain around it. I suppose that is what God does, though. He sometimes does things that are so completely out of your realm of understanding that they must be from Him. I didn’t make this happen. The six of us Southern Weddings ladies didn’t make this happen. He did. And I hope it brings Him great joy!
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