Cue the dance party! You’ve made it to the final two steps of Goal Setting for 2013! Wow, everyone’s progress has been so inspiring. Reading your comments, I have wanted to high five and hug each of you! If you are just joining us for this series, it’s never too late to start. There’s nothing magical about January 1. So, get started. We’ll all still be here to cheer you on!
I keep wanting to jump ahead to the making things happen part of this, but I will control myself for now. I like ACTION far more than planning, but taking this process step by step has been ridiculously fruitful for me so far! So, here’s my progress from Steps 7 and 8…
STEP 7: What are you saying NO to in 2013? What is NOT a part of your 2013 Vision? What is or could hold you back from your Vision coming to life this year?
Not a part of my 2013 Vision:
worry instead of prayer
getting too busy
on that note, new projects
working too hard for my clients
times I am lazy with our marriage closeness
fear of what others think of me (I could list that 20 times)
mommy guilt when I am working and helping others
time I waste on distractions and am not actively helping others
email. email. email. I get too much of it.
having too narrow of a focus and not getting outside more
time in front of the computer
clutter and too much stuff
buying new stuff I do not need
waiting to act on something good
STEP 8: What are you saying YES to in 2013?
studying the Bible a lot
studying the Bible a lot with others
talking about the Bible a lot with Ari
acting on what the Bible says
sharing my thoughts about what I’m learning in the Bible more
continuing to serve my parents in as many ways as I can from afar
praying for people when they ask for prayer
praying for lots of people even when they don’t know it
praying for Ari
praying for Grace and raising her with focus and joyful love
learning a lot of new things about business, finance and design that will help my vision grow
getting stronger physically and starting to lift weights again
more adventures with Grace and Ari
very very focused work
continuing to to RAOK’s
building my friends up in faith
playtime with Grace
getting on my knees to pray
leading a Bible study
always staying focused on my core in life and our core in business (same thing)
letting myself have BIG dreams for God
BONUS STEP: What one word really resonates with you for this year?
This was easy for me: SERVE. I have gotten great joy lately out of truly serving people in need with my whole heart and using my talents to bless others. I feel it’s my calling to serve my family, my staff, my clients and friends who interact with me in places like this blog. This year, I want to serve others and build others up wherever I am. This is also really hard for me though because I am naturally selfish and love the comforts of my home and circumstances. I like things to be in order and I have a hard time being my best and serving others when there is chaos. We don’t know where we will be living yet, come July though, so this coming year is a huge challenge for me to press forward into the unknown without all the circumstances in place. Serving is something I can focus on no matter where we are or what happens. I know I will fail many times, but that’s why it’s the word that resonates with me. It’s what I aspire to be – a giving joyful humble servant.
STEP 9: Refine and finish things out on steps 1-8! Solidify your process. Look at your 2013 Vision statement again and re-write it if you need to. I re-wrote mine (I’ll share it on Monday). Add to your lists of what did and didn’t work (I added a ton to mine!). Add more to your YES and NO lists. Refine your 2013 Pinterest board and post your link here. I’ll be putting a round up of the boards together in a future post for everyone to see and be inspired by. Take pins out that don’t fit with your Vision. You know you can take photos yourself and put them in your boards, right? Take pics of things that mean something to you and put them in your board. I’m still working on mine too. Refine everything, add to your lists if needed, and get CLEAR before moving to the final exciting step….
STEP 10: Write out your 2013 Goals! Yeah yeah yeah! You’ve made it! Like I told you from the start of this process, traditional goal setting does not work for me. Goals get forgotten and then they linger and make you feel guilty for forgetting them. Anyone else ever experience this? Well, hopefully at this point you are chomping at the bit to write some real goals down! Goals that mean something. Goals that you can’t wait to conquer. Goals that are very clear and will help you live a better life. So, let’s do it!
There are three rules to this:
1. Read through all of your progress on steps 1-9 again so you have all of it fresh on your mind.
2. Check your goals to make sure they are really good goals. It’s so easy to make goals that sound good or goals that other people have that you think you should have too just to keep up. Don’t do that. The idea here is for you to SIMPLIFY your life, not to give yourself a new to-do list of random things that sound good. Be very specific and careful about what you decide to spend your time on this year.
Do a GOAL CHECK and ask these questions:
- Will this goal help my 2013 Vision?
- Does this goal also help other people?
- WHY would I spend my time on this goal?
- (And a question I’m adding for myself – Does this goal help build God’s Kingdom?)
If the answer is NO, then it’s possible it’s not the best use of your precious time. For example, something I hear often that makes me cringe is, “I can’t wait to book my first $XYZ dollar wedding.” Trust me, I get that money is needed for living. Money is not a bad thing. It is a very good thing, in fact, and can make a lot of good things happen for people when used well. But, when you focus on the dollar amount over all else… well, you cheat yourself of finding real lasting joy in your work. There is a false assumption that high dollar contracts = less work and more happiness. It can mean that on occasion, but focusing on getting the right clients that pay you your true good value makes for a really wonderful life. I could go on and on here, but I hope you see my point. An alternative goal to “I want to book my first XYZ dollar wedding” could be “I want to work hard to build my business and brand value this year so that my art/service/product is the best it can be and so that I attract clients who celebrate my value. Because, then I will be able to do my best work and the client will have a remarkable experience… and I will have a better more joyful life with my family because of my focus and discipline.” Don’t run in circles with vain pointless goals. Get specific. Focus on what really matters to you in the big picture. See your 2013 vision and write down goals that strategically help you build that vision.
3. This is the most important key to Goal Setting. Write down your WHY with every goal. Structure them like I did above and write your goal and WHY it’s important to you and everyone you love. When I was a personal trainer in New York for many years, most clients would come to me with a number and say, “I want to lose 10lbs.” I would ask them, WHY 10lbs? Usually, when we got down to it, it was just an arbitrary number or a weight they were in college. There was no real heart connection to the goal of losing 10lbs. But, when we dug deeper into WHY they became out of shape in the first place and what they wanted most in life, true fitness started to happen. Instead of “I want to lose 10lbs because that’s what I weighed in college” (not very motivating and more self-defeating) we worked on goals like “I want to be healthy and strong so that I can live long enough to walk my daughter down the aisle. I want to live a long happy life so I can be a better husband and show my kids how to be joyful and healthy too.” That works. That is motivating. SO, get real with WHY you want these things to happen and connect them to something that really matters to you. It will help you ACT on your goals instead of toss them aside.
Dream big, friends! Dream big for your heart, your family and what fires you up in life. And take your time writing down your goals. Pray on them, talk them out with people you trust. Do more of what fires you up today. Turn up the music, love on people, get creative and get connected to what matters.
I’ll share my 2013 Goals on Monday (I’m going to take tomorrow and the weekend to focus on doing the things that fire me up so I can write really solid goals) and then we’ll get started on MAKING THEM HAPPEN on Monday, too! Oh, y’all. I hope you are ready for this. I’m doing a really silly giddy happy dance in my chair just thinking about the next part of this process! Let’s do this, 2013!
P.S. Comment with your goals or progress (big or small) here! Stay accountable, inspire others and you could also win a seat to our 2013 Branding Webinar Series that starts on January 16th!